I made a joke the other day in a chat conversation with a friend in the States that “I’m like a square peg lol”!

It made me laugh….because until that moment I’d not thought of myself as a square peg.  But it was like another truth that hit me….as I keep getting hit with truth after truth right now!

In that moment I’d fully started to understand me in my entirety.  Yes…I connect with my truth often…and it’s a journey we are constantly on when we start understanding ourselves fully…we shed the layers…constantly breaking down old beliefs and paradigms.

What is a “square peg”?

A square peg is something that doesn’t fit.  Like the saying goes, “a square peg in a round hole”.  Trying to make something fit into something it’s never going to fit into.

That goes for those of us who are different…like those of us who are Spiritual Rebels.  We don’t fit in with the norm like the rest of society.

A square peg spends their life triyng to find themselves.  Trying to understand why others can do something and it works for them…but with square pegs…it doesn’t and we have to try something completely different.

That’s why we can feel on the outside at times.  Like we belong…but in a different way.

Whatever we try to do….if it goes against our natural energy then it won’t work.  Because our energy is different…our DNA is different in terms of our soul’s DNA and the lifetimes we’ve had.  We’ve been disrupters of the norm for centuries…thousands of years. And our soul doesn’t plan on stopping that anytime soon…so get used to being a square peg LOL!

How did this thinking come about?

I’d realised that I was still trying to fit in with others ways of doing business…even though I knew my focus and understood who I am…it’s almost like I didn’t fully understand who I am until that moment.

When I truly understood that I am different.  That my energy is different.  My thoughts are different.  My thinking is different.  My actions are different.  The way I go about doing things is different to the norm when I’m truly embracing my unique soulprint.

As someone who has an online business to empower other women to get lit up and be the whole damn fire through the coaching I do and the intuitive readings I do….everything about me is different.  But following other traditional methods of running a coaching business aka the signature programmes that others talke about…quite frankly…bores me to fucking tears.

Because my energy…who I am…is not something that can be compartmentalized.  My energy is free flowing….I go where I’m guided….and I love to be free! I’m a free spirit! So why should my work reflect anything other than that!

Those who’ve worked with me know that my thoughts, guidance and energy flits from one thing to the next….going where I’m guided to go.

Sticking to a blueprint of a coaching programme….bores me.

Creating a powerpoint presentation for a workshop or digital course…bores me.

Sticking to rigid rules and guidelines…literally bores the fuck out of me!

Not that I was always trying to do that….and as my business has progressed…I’ve become more aligned with my unique soulprint (as should you with yours!! *wink wink*).  But….I was still thinking of other business models I could follow….even though the answer was starring me straight in the face!

Just do you. Just be you. Be unique. Allow your energy to be your compass.

I’m someone who naturally downloads a lot (!) of ideas.  All day long.  I’m always getting new downloads for course ideas or other options I can add to my business.

At first…following others guidance….I tried to dismiss these as being too chaotic for me….apparently I needed 1 thing and had to stick to that.

Bullshit.

That’s not who I am…because I’m a square peg.

That may work for some…but if you are a square peg like me…it won’t work for you.

Yes…you need to have clarity on who you are and what your message is….but nobody said in any rule book that you can’t have multiple ideas and options to work with you and create various types of content and various income streams.

When I used to tell people that I wanted a blog, a YouTube channel, a podcast, a website, to do intuitive readings, to do coaching, to write books, to be an inspirational speak….their eyes used to pop out of their heads almost like “why would you DO all of that?! Where does your energy come from?!” and my answer would always be, “why WOULDN’T I do all of that?!”.

Because to me it made sense as a square peg that I’ll never conform to others ideals or ways of doing things.  It goes completely against my unique energy.  That’s why I never truly felt fulfilled in jobs.  Yes there were some that I enjoyed and got a real sense of satisfaction from…especially when I was in a role where I was helping others like when I helped find work for the long-term unemployed (hated some of the companies and the processes but loved the work at a core level)…but I never truly felt free.  Like my spirit was somehow constricted and I couldn’t be the free thinking, forward thinker and free spirit that I truly am.

Because there’d always be some form of hierarchy or bureaucracy or procedures.

Why being a square peg works for me

As a square peg….I’m someone who naturally goes against the norm.  It’s part of my Heyoka Empath energy…I excel when I do things backwards to others.

I’m a disruptor….I don’t stand for bullshit.  I don’t stand for injustice.  I don’t stand for people feeling disempowered. And I don’t stand for people having no voice.

I’m that annoying person who has a thousand questions to ask….I’m constantly getting questions come to me throughout meetings and events….because I’m the person that doesn’t mind asking what others are thinking.

I think outside the box.  And I love to think outside the box.

If someone asks me for business advice or relationship advice or spiritual advice….I’ll tell you want you need to hear and not what you want to hear.  And not everyone is prepared for that kind of blunt honesty.

For me, it’s just normal.  Because that’s what square pegs do…they don’t fit in.  They break the mould. Smash through societal constraints and the perceived glass ceiling to show that there is no glass ceiling…it’s just a figment of your imagination because you’ve been told that by society.

For me, it’s normal to be an outsider.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m a very sociable person….like a social butterfly….and I love to engage in conversation…my idea of a perfect date is spending all day talking non-stop discussing anything and everything! I love making new connections, I make friends very easily….but I realise now that my energy….and being a square peg…isn’t for everyone.  Because my energy is powerful as fuck! And I trigger those around me (again, thanks to being a Heyoka LOL!) and not everyone is ready for that and so can’t be too close to me.

But I’m cool with that! I’ve learnt to embrace that!

As I say, I’m not everyone’s cup of tea….and why would I want to be?! I’m a square peg…I make my own tea! LOL!

Embrace your own inner square peg

If you are struggling to fit in with the norm, if you don’t always feel like you belong, if you get chastized for speaking your truth, if you are free spirited, if you are passionate about things that those around you cannot understand, if you just like to do things differently and feel restricted following certain rules….chances are you are a square peg like me!

Welcome to the club!

Embrace your inner square peg! Understand that everything that comes to you naturally…how you interact with others, how you speak, the work you do, the abilities you have, how you put yourself forwards as a voice of the people…..is all part of your unique soulprint.  When you go against this…when you try to conform…you’ll find that you won’t be successful like those around you doing the same thing.  You’ll find that you struggle more than others.  You’ll find that everything you are told to do just seems like pushing a boulder uphill.

So embrace your backwards energy!  Embrace being a square peg and breaking the rules! Embrace being a rebel to the societal norms! And embrace tearing down the perceived expectations of others.

Because you are unique.  And square pegs just do things differently.  They don’t…and never will…fit into that round hole.  So why force yourself?

Why force yourself to be someone and something that you aren’t?!

Give up on trying to fit in….let the world fit in around you…instead of the other way around!