Nothing Is Ever Wasted – Transmuting Pain Into Power

Mar 9, 2020

Nothing is ever wasted. No experience. No situation. No thoughts. No emotions. Nothing is wasted.

It can be easy to dismiss experiences…especially the painful ones…as just “one of those things”. Putting them to the back of your mind.

Into the doldrums of your memories.




But really…nothing is wasted.

To give a breath of life to the painful memories doesn’t prolong the pain. It shows you how far you have come. Who you have become in the process; and who you had to let go of to become this person.

Nothing is ever wasted.

The pain.

The hurt.

The despair.

The frustrations.

The heartbreak.

The loss.

Whatever it is…it’s never wasted.

Experiences mould us.

They shape us…and they show us our truth.

Leading a path to our highest calling.

If you choose to see experiences that way.

Most don’t.

Most people get caught up in experiences…the ones that have hurt them…cutting them deeply…and become consumed with the hurt. The pain. The loss. The despair.

Allowing memories to churn and eat away at them. Leading to a ravine of pain running deeper and deeper.

Yet…nothing is ever wasted.

Your soul chose this life. Remember that.

You chose this. And yes…that includes the shitty experiences. The people who’ve hurt us. The people we’ve loved and lost. The pain. The frustrations.

You chose this.


Because we grow through the experiences. To be human is to experience this reality. Which comes with differing experiences that seek to test our resolve…allowing space to expand and grow.

If you never experienced any pain in your life…whatever that is…then how would you grow and evolve as a soul?

We’re here for enlightenment.

To ascend.

We do that through the pain.

Through the darkness.

Life isn’t all love and light and happy clappy fairytales.

Everyone experiences testing times. It’s called “being human”.

We get to create our own realities. We get to create our own fairytale by living through the experiences and seeing them as opportunities for soul growth.

Nothing is ever wasted.

The experiences you’ve had…can revolutionize your life. If you allow it. If you see them as a springboard for your growth and evolution.

My playground is the darkness, shadows, energetics, consciousnesss…and transformtion.

My soul love transformation.

I’m an Alchemist 🙂

As I like to say…”turning shit into gold”


Because that’s what alchemy is. Transformation. Turning that which you don’t like into what you do.

Turning pain into power.

I spent my 20s consumed by an eating disorder and depression. Off and on. A lack of fulfillment in my life and a desire to control my reality…then feeling out of control and lost.

I was lost to my purpose. Lost to who I am. I couldn’t identify with this person. Because I knew that there was more to life and that I was called for more…but I didn’t know what.

In my 30s I was in a karmic soulmate relationship with my now ex-husband. It tested me. It pushed me to the brink of despair. And yet….on reflection…it was a beautiful experience.

The pain.

Because the pain was the catalyst for my growth. The catalyst for me re-discovering myself. My purpose. My power. My passions.

Nothing is ever wasted.

The tears. The hurt. The depression. The anxiety. The stress. The despair. The loss.

Never wasted.

After leaving my marriage 2 years ago, I was offered some support from a local group for women who had left abusive relationships.

As a Highly Sensitive Person and Empath, I couldn’t think of anything worse than being a group of women all moaning and complaining about their exes and playing victim to their experiences.

You choose to be victim or warrior.

Always a choice.

I’ve always viewed my marriage…and the breakdown of my marriage…as the catalyst for my growth. My ex-husband is my catalyst.

The fire beneath my wings.

The Phoenix wings that I birthed when I reclaimed my life by leaving my marriage.

I could have shut myself off from the world. And have chosen to play victim to my circumstances.

Moaning about my marriage breakdown. About the emotional abuse. The control.

But I didn’t.

Because the Alchemist knows how to turn pain into power.

Into purpose.

This is my role in life – playing in the realms of energetics and transformation to revolutionize the world we live in.

Nothing is ever wasted.

The tears I cried. The pain I felt. The depression that has crept up…again.

It’s never wasted.

Last week…I finally admitted to myself that I am depressed…again.

I didn’t want to admit it. Because I’ve been there before. 3 times before. Off and on throughout my 20s and early 30s.

But this time…I am better equipped to process this experience. In the past, I allowed it to consume me. I played victim to it.

But I am no victim. I am a warrior. I understand shadow like nobody I know…and the victim mindset is the shadow of the warrior.

And I didn’t go through the pain and the hurt to be a victim to my circumstances and environment.

Fuck no.

Nothing is ever wasted.

You either choose to allow something to consume you…or you choose for it to fuel you.

And I choose the latter.


I know how to turn pain into power. And purpose.

Not just for myself…but with the clients I work with. Because I see what others don’t. And I know how to wield energy.

I am a Witch after all.

And energetics is my Craft.

After leaving my marriage, I had to keep going. Because of my young daughter. I had to show up for her whilst still processing the pain of the relationship.

And now that the divorce is over, its like everything has crept back up again for me to truly process. To sit within the pain, to admit to and accept the depression…so that I can transmute that energy into power and purpose.

Nothing is ever wasted.

You are only a victim if you choose to be. Allowing pain to consume you and eat away at you.

No thank you!

Before I started writing this blog post, I heard Spirit whisper to me, “You’ve been through a lot”.

And I have. The emotional abuse. The control. Being a single parent. Managing life alone. Starting a business. The financial worries as a single parent. The anxiety. The stress.

I’ve been through a hell of a lot in the last 2 years…no wonder the depression crept back up again.

But such is the journey of a Spiritual Warrior and Healer. One who walks the Path of Transformation so as to teach and heal others.

Nothing is ever wasted.

The memories are reminders of who we once were…and who we have become in the process.

They help us to transcend our realities and call forwards our visions and our dreams.

We can either choose to be consumed by the pain…burnt in the fire…or we can choose to forge our own paths and create wings from the fire.

The Phoenix.

We always have a choice.

To fall…or to rise.

Nothing is ever wasted.

Use every experience as fuel for your purpose. And your power. Use them to forge your truth. To reclaim your identity.

To remember who the fuck you are.

And step boldly forwards with purpose, passion and power.

To fall…or to rise…that is your choice.